I too and in the same search as discussed below. My problem is I want a therapist who is younger. Is it wrong of me? This is difficult and my insurance doesn’t really help much cause it just limits me more!
i am currently searching for a counselor. so that i can spill my guts to a disconnected pair of ears. and i use a site where you can search for profiles by zip code. the site provides a list of matching counselors in my vicinity, along with a picture of them and a little paragraph explaining their specialties and interests and how they go about helping their clients.
what’s frustrating is that my best match is about 50 and she’s wearing a silver barette in the front of her hair. her hair does not look like it needs a barrette and it bothers me. it reminds me of a woman i worked with at Full Sail who was in her late 40’s early 50’s who used to wear her hair in high pigtails with these stupid smiling sun rubber bands.
i don’t care if you’re an older woman who needs to put her hair back. but i feel like those kinds of accessories are cutesy and look like of lame on older women. i’m weird. clearly.
will she wear this barette when we meet? will i be able to stop judging her long enough to talk about my issues? she’s got 20 years of experience. so, i guess it’s worth one consultation.
i guess if nothing else i could use the opportunity to tell her about barettes that match her hair, and maybe offer to give her a free professional portrait for her online profile. maybe she’ll give me a discounted session.
I love Jaime’s dedication below. I too need to step it up on the fitness side of things. It is not the I am out of shape but I have areas of my body that need to be strengthened in order for my body to function properly!
I ran into some foot and back issues recently that sent me to a chiropractor. I have seen a chiropractor before for the same issues I am currently having, although my recent visit brought light to the root of the problem. The problem is my core (abs) and my glutes (butt muscles) are not strong enough to handle the stress on my body. Doc says that my lower back is doing all of the work which should really be shared with the core and glutes.
This means that in order to have a healthy pain free body I need to start doing more exercise. I love yoga but yoga alone is not going to build up my needed muscle. Now only if I had a plan in action like Jaime does!!
i have 5 weeks left until my half marathon and due to totally forseen circumstances i’ve been horrible at training with the regularity and dedication required to run the race properly. my reality check came in the form of a 10k this weekend that i struggled through and managed to complete using intervals of walking and befriending a girl that was run/walking in front of me for a larger portion of the race. i figured that after staring at her ass long enough i might as well strike up a conversation. she was bossy but she got me through it. and she taught me a fine method for tying my shoes that might save my feet for the big race.
i do not consider it a failure to have to walk a little during a race. in fact, my goal has always been to finish. a year ago? i could not run a mile! so this is progress. and sometimes when i’m running/jogging, i go FASTER when i just speedwalk. so i don’t mind keeping realistic goals and intermittently walking in order to finish.
i did realize this weekend that i am not going to get away with running as far as i anticipated without sacrificing my social life (what’s left of it) and really focusing for the next 5 weeks. and so i’ve decided to buckle down and really try. i don’t know where my motivation is. it’s gone! but instead of waiting for it to come back, i’ve decided to just force myself to keep working at it until the motivation returns or until i’ve finished the damn race. whichever comes first.
fuck fitness on this level. it hurts. i might renew my cycling certification. i miss it.
monday’s i’ll be reacquainting myself with a matt workout dvd that i have been neglecting. tuesday through thursday i’ll be doing shorter runs that last anywhere from 3-5 miles. and sundays i’ll be doing my long runs. i have enough weekends left before the race get up to 10 miles. which will hopefully prepare me for running a bigger chunk of the race than i can currently complete.
my biggest race fears: not being able to finish. i am geninely petrified of this. the heat. last summer was really mild. this summer? not so much.
writing things down supposedly fosters some committment, and due to my MIA motivation i cannot afford to be taking any chances. not doing this is not an option.
I’m going camping in the Catskills tomorrow for one night. I’m really excited! If this goes well there could be lots of camping in my future. I love the great outdoors. We are even taking Nesta (my dog) with us. She has no idea how her world is about to change. Fresh air and trees! It’s going to be fantastic!
I really had to send this email today. What has my job come to?
"I am sorry, I really don’t mean to be a nag but even though we finally got another color copier for the company Anika and I are constantly bombarded with last minute (20 mins before meeting) requests to make color copies for people from all floors. When I ask why the other color copiers aren’t working (on 27 and 28) no one seems to have an answer. I don’t know if no one takes the time to call IT to have them fixed or what. We just can’t keep lending ours out to everyone because then we will also end up with broken copiers.”
Once upon a time I ruined a relationship by nagging. This was long and hard to read but I learned a lot from this article. My goal is to overcome nagging and learn how to properly communicate my feelings and needs. Relationships can work, it just takes time and effort on both parties. It’s not about who is right or wrong!
"Our moods and attitudes play a more powerful role in influencing our partners than the persuasiveness of our arguments. Grace found that she could get the understanding and caring she needed from Adam not by trying to prove him wrong but rather by shifting to an unguarded place and honestly expressing her needs and fears. Adam discovered that when he tried convincing Grace that her criticisms were unwarranted, the self-protective mechanisms in her brain rejected his influence. But when he listened to the feelings that drove Grace’s reaction, her internal wall came down."
I awoke sporadically throughout the night with slight pains in my tummy. Drifting in and out of my typically strange dreams, I did what I could to get a bit of quality sleep. I dreamt of museum like Target stores that had their own souvenir gift shops where I was shopping for kitchen items. Josh and I played a bit of hide and seek in the store as if we had returned to our childhoods. My stomach tried to wake me as my dream state pulled me back under. I hit the snooze button every ten minutes for well over an hour. My exhaustion in combination with the gloomy weather insured that I wake much later than intended. Regardless of the rain, I put on one of the sexiest outfits that I have bought in awhile. To my dismay, the outfit requires my expensive leather boots. I hope and pray that the rain does not ruin them. My wifey Jaime is in town from Chicago so Josh and I are going out to Japas 38 to meet her sexiness. Now if only this gloomy workday could scurry on by as quickly as possible.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You’ve got some substantial opportunities heading your way. Discuss your plans with someone who may want to join you. Love is on the rise, and a chance to do something spectacular will enhance a relationship that means a lot to you.
GOOD IDEA: taking a relaxing bubble bath ingredients: -house to myself -hot tub of water -epsom salt -lavender pure castle soap -flowers floating in tub -depeche mode playing -a sexy night replaying in my head -perez hilton book waiting to be read
BAD IDEA: making your own body scrub ingredients: -epsom salt -lavender pure castle soap -baking soda -little bit of olive oil -dash of sea salt
Results: -body scrub gone wrong -it made a nasty paste -didn’t exfoliate for shit -left a scum all over me and the tub -showering then cleaning the tub
Identifying what you want is the first step toward getting it, so think it over and get the specifics fixed in your mind. Go ahead and think big; let your vision of your perfect world percolate. Whatever you’d like to see changed in your work life, your relationships or your living situation is likely a lot closer than you think (though, of course, perfection will be elusive). After you have it in your head, find a way to communicate it to the relevant parties.
Listen. Have strong reactions. Have a strong point of view. Always try to act as intelligently as you are capable of. Explain yourself when things are unclear. Make it active. Establish where you are. Establish your relationship. Raise the stakes. Create a new reality together. Have fun. Note: You are allowed to ask questions.
Out of the middle of nowhere, he lit up like the Zoltar. As I waited for the V trains on my morning commute to my Mid-town job, the seemingly homeless man preached to me. He told me that I too could make a million dollars. He carried on ranting about how the NYC mayor had once been a parking attendant who eventually became one of the top 15 richest people. The man in the subway continued and said that all I needed was to believe in myself. “Do yourself a favor and make a little million and stop waiting for the subway everyday to help someone else make their million,” he proclaimed. I enjoyed listening to him. It was as if I had my own personal carnival spectacle and it didn’t even cost me a penny.