“When I’m weak I draw strength from you
And when you’re lost I know how to change your mood
And when I’m down you breathe life over me
Even though we’re miles apart we are each other’s destiny”—Zero 7 - Destiny
Tonight I went to my first yoga class since I moved back to Chicago. It was my first time back at Om On the Range. This studio is the first place I ever took an official yoga class. Tonight was a vinyasa style class conducted in a heated room. At first I was terrified and mad about the heat. Then once I got moving it felt amazing to be back on my mat. My body needed it so much. Even if my mind was resisting it, my body when right to work trying to maximize each pose. As I followed from one posture to the next I felt like I belonged in that class at that time. In fact I did belong in that class, everything was finally faling into place and it all hit me as the teacher turned on music. The first track played was an old favorite of mine from Zero 7 called Destiny. A song that holds a dear place in my heart. It brought on such a sense of accomplishment. A sense that even tho I struggled so hard over the years to finally find my place in this crazy world. Everything was so perfect I had to fight back the tears. I almost cried.
What is work appropriate attire these days? At first this morning, I had on a comfortable black and white striped cotton dress paired with black canvas vans (similar to Keds). For a moment, I joked that I just needed to have some tattoos and I could be on my way to a job at the Bleeding Heart bakery.
The dress was from Uniqlo and designed by a Japanese woman, which in my mind means it was intended for petite women. I was comfortable but I was on the fence as to if it was too short for work. I’m 5’10 with a 34 inch inseam (all legs) so everything seems short on me! The dress hit my fingertips so I thought I should be in the clear since I work in a casual environment. Then this nagging thought came on. If I had to think about it this much, then it must not be work appropriate! So, I changed into a “more professional” dress from Ann Taylor Loft, some wedge sandals and switched to a leather Marc by Marc Jacobs handbag. There that seemed better and more age appropriate for me.
I felt better. After all, there is an old saying that, “you have to look like management material before you are promoted to one.” This is my attempt to look the part in hopes of getting ahead in my career.
On my merry way to work I go as I start to analyze what other women are wearing. I notice a few skirts/dresses similar in length as my Uniqlo one and I have to wonder what type of job they are headed to. I wonder if I was over thinking things this morning. Are their outfits completely acceptable? Would I have been just fine in mine?
Part of me feels that I made a good decision but another part feels like I gave up on my personality just to fit an office stereotype. I played it safe. The Uniqlo dress would have set me apart but at what cost?
What’s your take on this situation? What do you think is work appropriate in 2012?